The best advice I have ever received has come to me in many forms and through many people over the years. From teachers to a college mentor to dear friends to Little Sally Walker*–the advice is the same:
Hey, girl, do your thing…!
Don’t worry what everyone else is doing, you just do your thing and do it as well as you can.
If you spend time looking around at everyone else, if you take too much time thinking about or obsessing about what your competition or your “competition” is doing, if you give your energy to trying to be like someone else or do what someone else is doing if it’s not what you’re supposed to do–you will probably fail.
It is really tempting to look around, I know. It’s easy to realize that someone is doing this job really well, or is really talented at that thing, or does really well with this thing. It’s possible to look at a colleague, a rival, a friend and think about all of the projects they are completing or the good grades they are scoring or the happy events they are celebrating and become…
I’ve been there for sure! And it’s not a good place to be. In fact, it’s miserable.
God doesn’t intend us to live looking around at everyone else. God intends us to live with Christ as our measuring stick and example (Eph 5:1-2) and to seek God first (Mt 6:33). If we’re obsessed with what others are doing and especially if we’re only just trying to imitate what they are doing because we feel inadequate or inferior, we aren’t living the way God created us.
You have gifts and talents. You have things that you do really well–better than the people around you. You have unique offerings to bring to the job/project/party.
Do what you do well and do it the best that you can and don’t get caught up in the successes and victories of people around you–unless you’re ready to celebrate with them!
Hey, Girl/Boy, do your thing!
*If you don’t spend a lot of time with elementary girls, Little Sally Walker is a song/game